Is Girl Power Dead?

I was born in the 80's raised in the 90's and did all the stuff I was supposed to in the 00's.
I'm part of the strong woman, girl power generation. The girls that looked after one another and supported each other's goals and dreams. Who stood by one another & had each other's backs. 

So, today I'm asking this question.... when did it become ok to tear one another apart?? Or worse, support a fellow female in public but rip her to shreds in private or over social media?

I'm wondering if it's in certain walks of life, or if it's just in business this happens, but I seem to be aware of it more & more recently. I read time and time again about women looking out for one another & us all having a #GirlSquad but then I only need to wait a short time before the bitching and the back biting starts. 

I recently attended an all woman networking event. Now, this in itself put me out of my comfort zone, but I've never felt more uncomfortable in any situation. The event was supposed to support women in business & for the most part it did, however the whole thing seemed massively forced and completely fake. I caught ladies bigging up the other business owners, then when their backs were turned, gossiping about them. There were personal comments and remarks about their private lives. God knows what they had to say about me. 

It upsets me, because we've forght to have our voices heard, to be viewed as equals and yet when a woman becomes successful, it seems that instead of being able to congratulate her, certain women are trying to find fault. Pointing out her flaws won't make you more successful. When will they learn, they just sound bitter?

The upside to this, it that in my new blogging world, I've found some really lovely genuine women. Those that if it was possible, I'd love to have in my girl possey! I've had messages that wish me well, those offering advice and those that just want to share their stories with me. These wonderful women fill me with hope and set the example of the type of females we need. If only there were a few more.

In my real world industry, women have to fight seriously hard to get the recognition that they deserve; but what I find hard to deal with is that those women who have made it, instead of giving others a leg up, insist on making it just as hard if not harder for those coming up the ranks. I'm assuming their logik is that they had to fight for it, why should anyone else get it any easier? But I find this hard to stomach. Surly we should be offering advice and guidance to the newcomers? Showing them different paths and encouraging new ideas?
Which is why, this week I employed my newest member of staff. Young & green in a sense, but excited & enthusiastic. She reminds me of myself 10 years ago. But I feel I need to protect her and give her the map of experience. 

I think the hardest thing to accept is the fakeness I've experienced. I stand by the saying if you've not got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. But maybe this needs to be updated to, if your nice thing isn't honest and true and if it doesn't reflect your true feelings, keep it shut too! 

I may be ranting a little here, but it's truly griped me.... what are your feelings on the subject ladies?? Am I blowing this all out of proportion or is true Girl Power dying? 

Today's Quote: ' Fix another Queen's crown without telling the world it was crooked.'

Love CB xx

Life Goes On

I've been a little quiet on the blog lately, not for any other reason than my real world life has taken over a little.

The blogging world still feels so new to me, and unfortunately it's had to take a little bit of a back seat while I juggle everything else.
But I thought I'd give you a little up date of what's been going on while I've done my disappearing act.....

I've been so shocked at how quickly the time has gone. Summer is officially over. I remember writing about how nervous I was about spending the summer alone after my break up. But now, it's been and gone and it's happened so quickly. 

I've worked some mad hours over the summer & its really done me good. It's been a great distraction & its allowed me to evaluate the things I want from my real world career. I've also been offered some truly amazing opportunities, which if I was still with my ex, I'm not sure if I'd even have considered them. I was just so comfortable in my relationship with him, that I didn't ever want to be away from that bubble. But now, being single again, there's no reason not to snatch up these things. I'm excited about what's to come in my professional life, but unfortunately it does mean that I'll be a little inconsistent with the blog, but I hope you'll all still dip in & out with me.

So, while work is certainly keeping me on my toes, my personal life is enjoying the calm. I'm fine. It's funny isn't it how we all deal with our emotions. I had an unusual experience, which I will tell you about in a future post, but this almost helped me to heal. I woke up one morning afterwards and my heart didn't hurt like it had been doing. Don't get me wrong, I still have the odd blip, but I'm doing ok. 
I've also been chatted up & asked out on dates. I'm considering my options lol. But it's been great for my low self esteem to know that there's people out there that find me attractive & that when I'm ready, I can date again.

So, my little update is basically to tell you all that I've not disappeared, I'm still here & love keeping up to date with you all over on social media & seeing your lives develop too. And I'm happy to announce, for those that have wondered, that I'm ok. Better than ok actually & I thank you for all the messages that I've received where you've been checking in. It means a lot.
This normal girl is doing good, and I'm ready to start the next chapter..... I hope you can join me.


Today's Quote: 'Only look back to see how far you've come.'

Much love, CB xx